Submitted to the Board of Ordained Ministry of the New York Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church, January 1984, as part of the requirements for Deacon/Probationary status.

C. Christian Life

4. Indicate in some detail how your close personal relationships affect your ministry?

As someone with an INTJ personality type, I naturally tend to be reserved in forming new friendships. Building close personal relationships takes time and intentionality for me. However, once those bonds are formed, I invest deeply and wholeheartedly. I offer my complete trust and loyalty, which creates relationships rooted in authenticity and sincerity.

While I may not make friends quickly, I am able to communicate effectively with others. This comes from my desire to be a good listener—not only in my conversations with people but also in my walk with God. I approach each interaction with a listening heart, seeking to understand others with patience and empathy.

This posture of attentiveness often allows me to see God’s presence even in the smallest moments. I have found myself learning profound lessons through the simple, honest words of children or through casual conversations with congregants. These experiences continually shape my pastoral heart.

During my training in the local pastor licensing school, I was encouraged to learn that others observed in me “a warmth and a depth of concern for another’s welfare.” I believe that this quality flows from my commitment to listen, to understand, and to reflect God’s love through my presence and care for others.

My personal relationships, while few and deep, are a vital part of how I live out my ministry. They help me stay grounded, empathetic, and open to the Spirit’s guidance in every interaction.